TESTIMONIALS

Anger Management Programme

Going on the positive changes anger management programme has been one of the best things I have ever done. I learnt that the reason we act the way we do is due to behaviour we have seen growing up as children. Being 17 years of age I can see how this will most definitely help me in the future. I have learnt my trigger signs of anger and I have been given the tools from this course to stop me from escalating out of control. This course has taught me more about myself than I was ever aware of before hand and now I can look forward to my positive future ahead of me because of the changes I have made due to the programme. I will take from this course the knowledge of how strong foundations in a home environment will ensure stability and positive growth. I would highly recommend this course to anyone because speaking from experience you don’t know until you try. This course can change your life, like it changed mine in a positive way.    C.S

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Participants from September - November 2015 Group

I recommend to attend in a smaller class of up to 5 students, this suited me!  I must go home and re-cap everything through, so much to offer the course, You have to want to make the most of this course otherwise no use.   TH

This is a neat course I enjoyed it so much you will gain good insight in this because it your willing , it can and will change you.  BV

Before starting the AM I had alot of anger and 3 months later, I have not had 1 bad problem from using all the strategies I have learnt.  I have had altercations but handled all the situations in the right manner.  Awesome, Amazing programme beneficial for everyone and anyone.  Learnt alot for the rest of my life.  Thank You Belinda and Te Paea.   LS

This was the most awesome fun and learnt so much on all the strategies throughout the whole programme.  LP

The 7 strategies taught were fun and really good to learn, they help alot and the facilitators are really cool.  TLC

Programme is Intensive but clearly laid out, with plenty to think about, a great course!  BM

This is an amazing course, I am young enough to learn skills around dealing with my anger, it has changed my life so much, I don't get angry anymore.  Thanks everyone  M

I have learnt to be more understanding towards others and not to just think about myself.  Being more assertive and less aggressive in my approach has been huge for me from the programme. LL

 

 

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One-on-One:  Nov 2015-Jan 2016

I've known for years that I have an anger problem but never knew how to deal with it. I'd looked up A M courses in the past but as a female found most were targeted at men.  As soon as I saw this I thought, this is the one for me and its everything I expected.  I felt safe and I've learnt so much that I never thought I'd achieve with my anger & most particularly for my son.  Belinda is just amazing and supports you all the way!  The strategies are real & you deal in facts and no bullshit, but in a positive, nurturing way.

Ka Mau, Te wehi       V.M

 

 Group 'Feb-April 2016'

A great positive program and more then I could of expected.  Changed my attitude and mostly taught me how to control my anger.  I have become far more respectful towards my wife which in turn is making life alot happier.      R.R

I recommend this course to everyone I am on my journey to becoming a calmer, happier and better person.  Thank you You'll never really know how positively you have influenced my life & my loved ones lives also.  You rock Belinda & Te Paea     K>R

It was educational and I gained an increased awareness of how destructive anger can be.   Z

My mum said I needed to attend the programme and I was a little against the idea to start with but overcame it by coming and attending most thursday nights.  12 weeks seems to go fast when you are enjoying it!  It has taught me alot of strategies and I come to grip with the problems i've got and I am trying to manage my life in accordance with it.  M

Taught me how to use Assertive communication, learnt about Self Care very important, learnt about reflecting and it taught me how to manage my anger.  SM

I understood the different tools because they were specific explained to me.  It allowed me to understand my feelings and emotions towards my two young daughters and being a single mum.    I.E

 

One-one-one:

I have always been open minded to new ways of thinking so by the time the course was available to me I was ready! The way in which it is structured and taught was easy for me to receive.  I absolutely felt like a sponge because the tools - ABC,BDA,STOPP etc models really helped me to change my own cognitive thinking.  A.T

 

May - August 2016

It was great course alot better than I thought.  Its not like a group you see in the movie or T.V,  it was very friendly.  It's a great way to look at your anger from a different way.     B.T

 

I found this course to be very helpful, I have used the ABC, BDA and the Pcp sandwich at work and home.  The course has shown me a better way of dealing with my anger and their are differences I still slip up on but I see my error now and adjust accordingly.  R.S

I did one-on-ones with Belinda because my Mum and Dad said I had too.  I didn't think I has an anger problem, but after doing the sessions I realise that I can say some hurtful things, especially to my mum.  I learnt my triggers and I learnt that my key value is about 'fairness', I am now working on being able to manage myself when my triggers are pushed.  I atttened every session and enjoyed it!  Not like school.            K.B. 13yrs old

 

One on Ones: finish October 2016

It was a interesting programme.  I was a angry person before I started and a bad swearer.  I was in residential care with my boy while I was attending the one-on-one sessions with Belinda, this has helped me get through the time in residential care and its really great programme,  I have am proud that I have completed the programme!  My favorite strategy was STOPP, I enjoyed the sessions with Belinda.  W.N.

 

What I have gotten out of the course is not what I imagined  I signed up for!  I found a friend in the tutor, I learnt so much about myself, I discoveerd the good things about me which enabled me to start making positive changes in my life, rather then concentrate on the negative things all the time.  I let go of the guilt Ive been carrying around for years, and learnt real strategies to help me not only deal with my own anger issues but deal with people that are around me and their anger issues.   G.M.

Group:

September - December 2016

When I started this course I didn't know how to manage my anger, but now I do know how to.  My facilitator Belinda guided me through when everyone had turned their back on me.  I should have met her earlier and attended this group.  Everyone who attended the course was very supportive, inspiring,strong and open, so this made me feel at home.  Loved every moment and meet really nice people.  Thank everyone for their sharing and love.  God Bless you Belinda you have given me the tool's to have a better life.  Thank you  R. D.

Having recently completed the 12 week Anger Management programme, I can only totally recommend it to anybody who feels they would like to make changes in their lives.  I was reluctant to begin with and had no idea what to expects however, was very pleasantly surprised, the environment is very comfortable and friendly with an honest approach to improvement right from the very first minute, one of the first things that stood out was that I wasn't alone and there are other people with the exact same issues as me who are looking to make changes.  The course has proven to be a success for me and I have come away with some fantastic tools and a new found knowledge and awareness of myself and my triggers.  I would describe it as more of a Positive Change Programme.    D.D

Conflict Resolution workshop:  Dec 2016

I have learnt that the answers are the hard ones.

Learnt a bit from everyone sharing their experiences how it links to the transforming power wheel.

That alot of people can be dealt an unfair hand - but its the way we handle it that matters.

We can all relate to each other, we all want something out of this

Its all of us that are the drivers

I have learnt that similar experiences bring a similar outcome.  We all have a choice - its all about creating the systems in ourselves to make the right choices.

Stop fighting, avoid violence stay away, cool down and have manpower

Always respect the hand that is reaching out to you to help.

Group 1:

A good course well structured and incite-full facilitation.  I recommend this course to anyone that feels they have a problem with anger I only wish I could have done this years ago.  G.H.

Auntie Belinda (not my Auntie but that's what I called her)! is very neat and onto it, she's calm and collective and knows what she is talking about.  I would advise people to listen her.  The strategies have been good, I've used the compliments sandwich when I have been angry, or thought of getting angry, I liked assertive communication session - I'm Okay Your Okay, taking time out to think that lifting my fist is not ok anymore.  Highly recommend it!  L.B.

I found that this course has really helped me with dealing with my anger, I have been able to have more self control through the strategies I've learnt through this course, I highly recommend the course, good attitude, and a sense of your own anger and problems and the want to change is required for starting off.  Excellent facilitation/course.   C.H.

I have found this course to be very informative helped me to be a better person each session was rule of life.  The guys on the course were awesome and very friendly.  I fully recommend the course to people who want to make a positive change in their life.  The facilitator was non judgmental and was there for us to help us see the good in us.   K.A.

Group 2:

To be open and come to the anger management programme and know that they will help you though whatever you need with or struggle with has been awesome.  Belinda is a heartwarming lady, it helped me learn things I have never learned before, helps you to move on from an unhealthy relationship.   M.A.H

Best way to change your ways is to join an Anger Management programme, solve your problems learn how to be assertive not aggressive.  Change your lives and live to the fullest.  L.T

To be open about what happened in your violent relationship and learn the skills to deal with your own anger has helped me to move in a better place all thanks to the programme.  T.K

If you have been though Domestic Violence and have alot of anger, this is the best programme to begin with, you learn alot and ways to cope with different types of anger.  Always be assertive only you can change it.  shout out to Belinda coolest chicky out.  J.T

Conflict Resolution workshop August 2017

What I have learned from this workshop?  From participants:

#A Toolbox,                 # I have a voice, but that doesn't mean my voice should be above everyone else's,

#Positive to negative -Self Talk and general conversation,                              #Communication Styles: Passive, Assertive, Aggressive

#Self Love,                            #Assertive communication,               #When a situation is getting heated, now to walk away and stop dwelling on the past!

# It's OK to stand up for yourself as long as it doesn't put someone else down or victimize them.

It helped me to see other outcomes of expressing my moods and not always jumping to anger outlets.  I felt comfortable coming each week and always looked forward to coming.  The Abc, assertive communication,Bda,  Stopp, Compliment sandwich I liked.  It helped my relationship between people.  I stopped seeing life at such a threat and a bad thing, I started seeing more positives.  I recommend this course.     A.B

 

Without much warning my life was unraveled very fast.  P.C.P helped take the anger away for me and focus on the important issues in my life, my son and myself - instead of my relationship break up!  S.C

 

Previous D.V courses I didn't like or find effective.  I was a bit apprehensive of attending P.C.P.  I have learnt lots of effective ways to manage my anger.  I liked the strategies such as Stopp, assertive communication and Abc.  I found it a lot more effective with the one-on-ones sessions with Belinda and I enjoyed them  S.F

 

Learning the tools to use in every day life have been a must for me.  Opening up to fellow class members with similar situations has been great.  J.D

 

As always there is something in any course that serves your purpose.   This course opened up a couple of things that will be useful in dealing with frustrations.  P.N

 

Really enjoyed the course.  I have learnt alot of life skills that I will always use in work and social day to day events.  Belinda is a great person to work with because she walks the walk!  J.C

The Outcomes I have got from the workshop

Have got tools to deal with conflict - through the transforming power wheel  K.

Yes do things for myself and continue educating self, self care till all the negativity has gone. K

I can work more on my listening skills with my beautiful children and not put words into their mouths, and I am able to be aware of my body language. R

I have managed to attend this workshop and can continue to improve on my choices. R

Transforming Power Wheel is my outcome to work with, along with Self Care.  K

I have to make availability for my children, I want them to have a good education something I missed out on.  S

Transforming power wheel, I statements, Self Care are the outcomes I got.  S

I have more understanding of others, more transparency here adds to my tools.  J